How to Prepare for Divorce Mediation

What Should You Know Before Attending Mediation?

Understanding the structure of mediation is the first step. It is less formal than court proceedings, focusing on cooperation rather than confrontation. Know your priorities and desired outcomes from these sessions. Flexibility and openness are vital, as mediation often involves compromise. Always remember that successful mediation results from clear communication and mutual respect.

How Can You Prepare for Financial Discussions in Mediation?

Getting your finances in order can be helpful in streamlining mediation. Gather all relevant financial documents, such as bank statements, credit card statements, tax returns, and details about investments and debts. Make a comprehensive list of both marital assets and individual possessions. Here are some of the things you should consider:

• Assets List: Include all joint and separate properties like homes, vehicles, retirement accounts and valuable items. Both vested and unvested assets should be listed.
• Debt Overview: Document all outstanding debts, including mortgages, loans, and credit card balances.
• Income Statements: Pull together recent pay stubs, employment contracts and related details, and any information about any other income sources.
• Expense Account: List monthly expenses to estimate needed support. Note that this budget might be different than the expense information needed to be listed on a court financial affidavit, which requires at least a thirteen-week lookback.

Organizing this information will help you present a clear financial picture during mediation.

What Strategies Can Enhance the Outcome of Your Mediation?

To approach mediation with the right mindset, consider the following strategies:

• Follow the Mediator’s Lead: You hired this facilitator for a reason. The mediator is there to help the process in a good way. Trust their experience – and if it feels contrary to what you believe makes sense, speak up, but also be ready to listen to their guidance.
• Set Realistic Goals: Know what you can compromise on and what is non-negotiable.
• Practice Effective Communication: Express yourself clearly and listen actively to your spouse’s concerns.
• Seek Legal Advice: Understanding your legal rights and obligations can provide a strong basis for your discussions. See our website for more information on the role of “review counsel”.
• Manage Emotions: Mediation can become emotional; staying as calm as possible helps in making rational decisions. And, with that said, know that all emotions are welcome in the mediation process.
• Plan for Post-Mediation: Think about potential outcomes and how you will handle them.

These preparations can significantly (and positively) influence the results of your mediation session(s).

Ultimately, thorough preparation for divorce mediation can pave the way for a smoother process. By organizing your finances, setting clear goals, and maintaining open communication, you will best position yourself for a constructive dialogue.

If you have further questions about divorce mediation, or you if and your spouse believe this process may be right for you, please don’t hesitate to contact The Law Offices of Eric R. Posmantier, LLC today.